Comments on: why I don’t like the term “modesty” http://www.swingingfromthevine.com/2007/10/10/why-i-dont-like-the-term-modesty/ digging deep, stretching up, reaching out Thu, 20 Nov 2008 13:14:55 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Shelley the Find Your True Beauty Girl http://www.swingingfromthevine.com/2007/10/10/why-i-dont-like-the-term-modesty/#comment-1638 Shelley the Find Your True Beauty Girl Sun, 09 Dec 2007 20:43:55 +0000 http://www.swingingfromthevine.com/2007/10/10/why-i-dont-like-the-term-modesty/#comment-1638 Check out this modesty survey filled out by over 1600 Christian guys. It's not exactly research, but it gives an idea of what guys consider to be modest. http://www.therebelution.com/modestysurvey/ ~Shelley Check out this modesty survey filled out by over 1600 Christian guys. It’s not exactly research, but it gives an idea of what guys consider to be modest.

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~Shelley

]]> By: Lucy http://www.swingingfromthevine.com/2007/10/10/why-i-dont-like-the-term-modesty/#comment-1628 Lucy Mon, 03 Dec 2007 21:36:28 +0000 http://www.swingingfromthevine.com/2007/10/10/why-i-dont-like-the-term-modesty/#comment-1628 Hi, I agree with you that, in general, women are taught to be modest purely for the benefit of men. This is far too extreme. Whilst I do agree with women and men being taught to dress modestly (in moderation), I feel that the church fails to help us understand exactly why. Whilst researching these topics recently I came across an article that explained that men are much weaker than women in giving into lustful temptations and sinful thoughts. I can only assume that this is where the teachings and beliefs that women bodies are something to be ashamed of stem from. I did find though, a much more correct and satisfactory answer. That is, that women were given the gift of beauty by God (:D), and it is in a sense a precious gem that we should protect and honour and we should command respect and honour for. Also the fact that when women become pregnant, God touches the new life in the womens body and gives him/her a soul, making our bodies sacred in a very special way and very close to God, and to dishonour that by encouraging sinful looks, thoughts and actions is very wrong. There is a great book called "The Privilege of Being a Woman" by Alice Von Hildebrand which explains a lot- you can get a copy from Southwell Books. Also an article I found to be quite helpful can be downloaded at - http://www.catholicmodesty.com/modestreading.html#anchor_1042. Its' the one called " Those who serve God Should not Follow the Fashions", Lucy Hi,
I agree with you that, in general, women are taught to be modest purely for the benefit of men. This is far too extreme. Whilst I do agree with women and men being taught to dress modestly (in moderation), I feel that the church fails to help us understand exactly why. Whilst researching these topics recently I came across an article that explained that men are much weaker than women in giving into lustful temptations and sinful thoughts. I can only assume that this is where the teachings and beliefs that women bodies are something to be ashamed of stem from.

I did find though, a much more correct and satisfactory answer. That is, that women were given the gift of beauty by God (:D), and it is in a sense a precious gem that we should protect and honour and we should command respect and honour for. Also the fact that when women become pregnant, God touches the new life in the womens body and gives him/her a soul, making our bodies sacred in a very special way and very close to God, and to dishonour that by encouraging sinful looks, thoughts and actions is very wrong.
There is a great book called “The Privilege of Being a Woman” by Alice Von Hildebrand which explains a lot- you can get a copy from Southwell Books. Also an article I found to be quite helpful can be downloaded at - http://www.catholicmodesty.com/modestreading.html#anchor_1042. Its’ the one called ” Those who serve God Should not Follow the Fashions”,

Lucy

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